If there is one single thing that the entire human race could agree on it would be we all fear judgment. You can be the most confident person in the room, but at some point in your life you have not done something due to the fear of what others may think of you. It’s a very tricky subject too, we’re all trying to stay in our own lane yet always have something to say about someone else, especially if that person is doing something you wish you were doing.
Let’s talk examples: friend goes abroad – they’re wasting their time and money partying, go get an actual job. Someone posts a hot picture of their body on instagram – why would they post that, that’s slutty. Someone start’s a blog…why would they put such stupid content out, no-one will ever read that – talk about embarrassing….(cough, cough).
Oh what a wonderful world we live in. My entire life I think this has been my biggest fear, I mean I still haven’t made this blog public or advertised it because I’m still so nervous about what people will say about me in the process…how sad is that? We live in a world where people are holding back from their true selves because they’re scared about what their friends, family and people online might say. Can you imagine being on your death bed thinking about that thing you always wanted to pursue, yet didn’t because of what someone else may or may not have said?! That is absolutely terrifying to me. The fear of turning 50 and realizing I haven’t done one thing I wanted to do in life is my biggest driver. I know I can’t say much, I still haven’t shared this with my close circle of friends but I’ll get there. I made the damn thing that must count for something.
I am slowly working on controlling my own mind and fear along with it. Some tips I’ve started using is the incredible #5SecondRule by Mel Robbins. If you have an instinct to act on a goal, you must physically move within 5 seconds or your brain will kill it.
I’ve only been practicing it for about a week now, and it’s already made me speak up at a work conference multiple times, cold call candidates at work, get my ass to the gym in the morning and get my hand out of the chip bag. Another thing I’ve been doing to try and help my mind reverse this crazy feeling of fear is actually research fear itself. When you really start to understand something and the way it works it’s much easier to control. Using google, library, etc, to figure out what causes fear and the real meaning behind it, that way when it comes up, you can tell yourself this is just a normal body reaction you’ve gotten in the habit of feeling – you’ve been trained to feel this way, but like any habit with time it can be undone. No human wants to go outside their comfort zone…because that would mean you don’t know the outcome and to me and you that’s really effing scary.
To come to a conclusion of this mumbo jumbo think to yourself: What is it that I’ve always wanted to do? Now..just do it. Seriously go!!!! There is no better time than right now. We all die anyways who gives a shit what anyone else thinks.
“One day you will wake up & there won’t be any more time to do the things you’ve always wanted. Do it now.”
― Paulo Coelho
I’ve actually made this my new background, try it out. Next time you look at your phone it’ll remind you to stop making excuses..